To the Partner of a Dreamer (A short letter)

by Kenny Eller on February 10, 2011

To Whom It May Concern

To Whom It May Concern:

I know it may be tough being in a relationship with someone that has gigantic dreams.  What was once a journey filled with fun and excitement, has now too often become another hope filled process that may end up being like all the others, a big hop, skip and a jump from greatness that falls short.

I get that you’re tired of listening to all their big ideas and who knows maybe you don’t even believe in them anymore, but do you remember when you did?

Do you remember when you first met them and their dreams lit up the room?  Do you remember when their energy and optimism not only fueled themselves, but also inspired you?

Do you recall the impact they had on friends and family?  How everyone somehow wanted to live vicariously through them?

They inspired people to want more.

It was invigorating wasn’t it?

Though in this “realistic” world of being happy with good enough, it’s time to move on, right?  Time to buckle down and leave the dream(s) behind.  It’s time to live life and be happy with what the social norm is, right?

Do you chuckle at their ideas now?  Do you roll your eyes?  Do you discount their dreams?  Are you amazed that they still even dream?


Here is a little of my story for those of you that don’t know.  I’m a dreamer.  I dream big things.  I dream of playing Michael Jordan 1-on-1 in basketball.  I’m 33 years old (not a kid anymore) and I’m beyond passionate about it.

For too long I didn’t dream.  I did the social norm.  I made money and bought plenty of things.  Every time I would set a goal and achieve it I would stand on the pinnacle of that goal and silently ask myself, “now what?”  It was empty.

I told myself that what I was doing had to equate to earning currency and if it didn’t, I couldn’t see lending a lot of time to it.  It was time that I grew up and become responsible.  So I did.  The only life goals I had were all tagged with a $.

Then one day in August, yes this past August, after much thought, I broke free from the chains and began to dream again!  I launched this site and have been running (literally) ever since.

If you’re a regular reader of, you know I feel alive more now than I have in quite some time.  The power of the dream is back within me!

One other thing about me.  I’m extremely supported by my spouse and honestly it would be very tough on me if I wasn’t.  Not only has she not objected with anything I’ve done on my journey to play Michael Jordan, she has been upbeat and positive, helping me to further believe it is possible.

Dreaming again has energized me and I want others to feel the same thing I’m feeling.


Did someone tell you along the way that your dreams were dumb?  Did someone tell you that you couldn’t be whatever it is you wanted to be?

If so, I know that hurts.

Though, if you’re alive and kicking, you still have time to go after the things you always wanted.

Even if you aren’t quite ready to dream again, you have an opportunity to NOT be that negative person in your relationship.


If you are BLESSED enough to be in a relationship with a dreamer, count yourself as one of the lucky ones.  Encourage them, support them, pitch in and help them with their dream!

The only downside of them not achieving their larger than life dream is that they end up having the life you may think they should stop dreaming and have now.

The upside?  Well, buckle up and wait and see!

You are in partnership, remember….

Much love,

Michael Jordan’s Next 1-on-1 opponent aka Kenny Eller


Injury Update

I finally scheduled an appointment for later today with the best orthopedic group in the Orlando area, Jewett Orthopedic.  While I have seen vast improvement since my injury, I am still unable to walk without compensating for the injury and that is a bit concerning.

As far as the (MAT) Muscle Activation Technique specialist goes, I’m still reviewing, but that could very well be the next step.

Fingers crossed, I’ll get some good news this afternoon!

Updates later today via @KennyEller on Twitter.

Thank you for your support!

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